Absolutely, true, everyone with a keyboard can be an expert. Although, the author of that article was very knowledgeable regarding R2800's, but he is only one opinion.
I would bet, if you called the techs back, you might yet get different opinions and a call to the engineering department another idea. It is not surprising the manufactures would place blame else ware. This is an old and unresolved question, that has been much discussed. Engine size, turbo chargers, shock cooling etc. are certainly factors. The operating manuals do not have restrictions against operating at idle, so a cynic would say, they just want to sell more engines, or maybe they don't really believe it is an issue.
There are so many variables, it could be related to mishandling parts, material defects, assembly error, run-in mistake, built on Friday, you may never know for sure why this happened. I doubt it was anything that you did that would result in that severe damage, just an opinion.